The Problem with Bisexuality

Make up your mind already.

The Problem with Bisexuality

Make up your mind already.

My problem with bisexuality is not that “they just can’t decide.” My problem is not that “they’re confused.” My problem is not that “they’re being greedy”. My problem is that “they” are me, and you probably didn’t know that.

Really, it’s just not fair—bisexuals can live under the guise of being straight, and therefore conform more nicely into society somewhat unintentionally, if they just happen to only meet and date people of the opposite sex. I know this, because it’s what I’ve done all of my life.

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Baby #3 for Beatie

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It’s probably not surprising at all that people still take issue with Thomas Beatie, a transgender man with female reproductive organs, getting pregnant again.

Some online publications announcing Beatie’s third pregnancy call him a “man” in quotes. Others are adamant about calling him “her”.

My favorite is one of the comments on Right Pundit’s pretty derogatory anouncement of Beatie’s pregnancy:

“Who cares? If Sarah Palin is allowed to reproduce then anyone can.”

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Happy Thanksgiving!

Hope you had a great holiday weekend! I know I did – that’s why there’s no real post this week.

So when you’re done gobbling down your leftover turkey, here’s some food for thought for next week – what did you think of Adam Lambert’s much talked about American Music Awards performance? Do you think if it was a female pop star like Britney Spears or Lady Gaga giving the same performance, it would have been news at all? Above is an interview with Lambert about the performance on CBS’s the Early Show – I think he makes a great point!

Only 3 Days Left! –

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A few weekends ago, I had the pleasure (and admittedly, stress – it was a last minute project) of designing this newsletter for the Central New York Chapter of the NYCLU.

As mentioned in the newsletter, is a really great resource for those who want to make an impact on New York’s senators and help to get the Marriage Fairness Bill passed.

There are only 3 days in the legislature session left – if you haven’t already, please call or write to your senator now and tell them that you believe in marriage equality. You can also show your support for the Marriage Fairness Bill on Twitter and Facebook.

The Squid Hunter

Pepper viciously attacks a squid - Photo by Ariel Servadio
Pepper viciously attacks a squid - Photo by Ariel Servadio

Okay, I’ll admit it: I’ve been a bad Cephaloblogger for the last two weeks. As in, I haven’t been posting anything since I announced that Jeanna won the Lunapads Contest.

And there’s no excuse for it, because just in the last week there have been a slew of wonderful things for me to blog about – Thomas Beatie giving birth to his second child (a little brother for Susan!), Chastity Bono transitioning (and Jamison Green writes a fantastic response to Chaz’s announcement), the turmoil in Albany threatening the passing of the Marriage Fairness Bill.

But, I do have an excuse: I’ve been really busy! And while I have plenty of posts brewing in my head (and in my WordPress dashboard), I haven’t had the time to sit down and fully flesh them out yet (with the exception of this pathetic excuse for an explanation of my absence).

So, just be assured that more Cephaloblog posts are on their way in the very near future. In the mean time, entertain yourself with this adorable photo of my beloved cat, Pepper, viciously attacking a squid (she is the squid hunter – Pepp has been engaged in the lengthy process of slowly tearing this squid apart for months).

Those that know me personally know that I was recently vying for a position at the Central New York chapter of the New York Civil Liberties Union (NYCLU), a division of the ACLU. Unfortunately, I didn’t get it, but, despite my disappointment, I continue to avidly follow the NYCLU through their website and with my kind-of new Twitter account, as well as volunteering editing and designing my local chapter’s newsletter.

Which is partly why I am so excited about In case you didn’t already know, June is Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Pride Month. In honor of that and the Marriage Fairness Bill, which has already been passed by the State Assembly and is waiting for approval from the Senate, MarriageNY has declared itself a campaign set to prove to dissenters that all couples and all families deserve to be granted equal rights, including the right to marriage.

The MarriageNY website tells you what you can do in a few seconds, minutes, or hours to help make marriage equality happen in NY. This includes following the campaign on Facebook and Twitter, sending a letter (or an online fax) to or calling your Senator, and volunteering at Pride events in your area. You can also view videos from all sorts of different couples and families on why they believe in marriage equality. I’ve included some of my favorites after the jump, as well as another commercial from the Empire State Pride Agenda.

If you haven’t already, please check out and help in the fight for marriage fairness.

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Transgender Girl


I’m going to try not to ruin this by saying too much, but, basically I think this is amazing. Please watch the video to see what I mean.

I honestly believe that if all transgender people were given this opportunity – to live as who they really are from the youngest age possible – not only would society have less of a problem with it, but they would endure so much less pain, depression and struggle for acceptance (because people would know them as who they really are for a much longer period of time).

I think it is awesome how incredibly supportive her parents are. I realize that it must have been a very hard choice for them to make, to allow their daughter to live as she is, and they probably face opposition to their decision every day.

I only wonder if hormone replacement therapy or sexual reassignment surgery will be done at an earlier age (if she chooses to do either)? Will they be more/less effective before/during puberty? Will it result in a smoother transition, physically?

I don’t want to get all John Money crazy here and start changing a baby’s biological sex before the age of one (PLEASE read As Nature Made Him), but I do think if a child is old enough to tell you, repeatedly, that wish they were the opposite sex, or that they are a different gender “inside”, then they should be able to transition.

Back to Beatie

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I have to talk about the man who had a baby.

This is why: I know it’s a little late in coming, but I’m really getting annoyed by all the “sick” and “weird” comments I hear when someone even dares to bring this topic up. A man had a baby. So what? This isn’t the ’80s. The concept of a transsexual is not shocking anymore. Yes, this man used to be a woman. YES, this man chose NOT to have sexual reassignment surgery, which can be risky and invasive. 

Actually, the reason I am bringing this up is because of my mom. My dear, sweet mother who has oft shared the enthusiasm over the plight of the misunderstood transgender people with me. “Why would anyone put themselves through this unless they really felt it was true?” “They can’t help that they were born in the wrong body!”

My mom doesn’t think the man should have had a baby. Or rather, she thinks, if he did want to have a baby, he should have waited to become a man until after he did so. 

Simply put, I think this is fucked up.

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